Are You in a Toxic Relationship? Here is How to Tell...

I'm going to give you some tips and pointers how to tell if you are in a toxic relationship.

Do all or any of these situations happen?

• Your partner puts you down and ridicules you in front of others?
• There is a dissonance between when your partner says they love you and their actions which says they don't?
• You partner shows an unhealthy interest in controling you. Following you to invading your privacy by reading your mails?
• Your partner trys to isolate you to make you dependent on them?
• You find yourself changing yourself to please your partner all the time?

In short, you know you are in a toxic relationship when you feel sick being around your partner.

Now let's talk about the cycles in toxic relationships. There is the honeymoon period in which nothing can go wrong. Both of you are happy as clams. Then comes the blow up when your partner and/or you get angry and confrontational. And then there is the reconcilation period in which you make up and begin anew. And this cycle keeps on turning.

So let's put this toxic relationship cycle in a frame. When you first meet someone new, you are obviously in a honeymoon stage. This is when you should be very observant (which is very hard to do because they are usually on their best behavior...). But after they suck you in deep, you begin to realize that you are in a toxic relationship. And at that point, you are stuck in a relationship that makes you unhappy.

A common thread for toxic people is that they came from toxic homes. They learned from their moms and dads. As a result, they just imitate the only folks they looked up to while growing up. And unconsciously, they are not even aware that they are doing it!

So if you decide that you are in a toxic relationship, you need to understand that you have choices. Many partners who stay within a toxic relationship, are usually those with low self esteem or suffer from other conditions such as depression.

The next thing to do is stand up for yourself because your partner won't. And it is definitely not your fault! So don't let them manipulate you into thinking about that.

If it is difficult for you to get out of a toxic relationship, you may want to seek professional counseling. They can help you either fix the problem or get out of the relationship if it can't be fixed.

And you see, there are some success cases in which people are able to break the cycle of a toxic relationship for good. But some people also need to leave that toxic relationship and form a new and healthier bonds with someone else.

But understand this, most relationships can be saved. Sometimes it takes a little space to make them understand that they do need to make some changes. Other times you both may need to seek counseling. But in most cases, if both of you seek counseling, then you are able to make the bonds of the marriage that much stronger.

So you have a decision to make here. If you feel the relationship is worth saving or if you feel you must walk away and start over again.

The next thing to do if you decide to free yourself from the dependency of a toxic relationship is to stand up for yourself and say what you need from the relationship. Simply just convey to your partner that you need their support or love or honest and truthful opinions.

And if you don't get what you need, be sure the other person knows you are prepared to walk away.

Once again, a healthy relationship is a give and take thing. And a toxic relationship is a one way street for the other person. I want you to understand that you do have to power to make changes. But you have to do it because obviously your partner won't.

But if you want to win back the lost love of your ex, then I strongly suggest that you check out The Magic of Making Up by T.W. Jackson. It is one of the best books that I have read and it saved the relationship of 1000s of couples all over the world. At the same time, I urgently suggest that you get it right now before indifference takes place and your ex starts to forget about you. And it may become impossible to get them back.

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