The Plan to Get Ex Back - The Top Reasons for Breakup and How to Fix It

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The Plan to Get Ex Back – The Top Reasons for Breakup and How to Fix It

Breaking up can happen to anyone… you find out when you turn on your TV, browse the Internet or even read a magazine… that some power couple is breaking up.

And truth be known… breaking up is probably one of the most heart rending things that can be done to you…

But here’s the thing… breaking up happens to everyone… sooner or later. It is a normal part of growing up. However! Break ups can also be repaired… simply because many breakups happen for the same reasons.

And the reasons also have cures… so to speak…

So I’m going to give you a plan to get ex back by telling you the top reasons for breakups and the top ways that you can fix them.

Some are easy and some are a little more complex. It totally depends on your situation.

But let’s get back into what you are probably feeling right now… like crap! Right? Nobody likes that feeling of being alone… imagining their ex partner going out with another person and moving on…

Without you.

So of course you are miserable and upset…

And you DO want to get back together again. A lot of folks feel the same way… and they have done it and so can you!!

So let’s talk a little about WHY couples breakup. The #1 reason for breakups is pretty obvious… infidelity. And cheating on partners happens to many people… even the famous celebrities in Hollywood.

The most infamous one I can think of off the cuff is when Brad Pitt cheated on his then wife, Jennifer Aniston with Angelina Jolie.

That really sucks… it took Jennifer a long time to get over that…

And why do people cheat? I’m sure there are tons of books written about this subject. But cheating is never a good thing because it betrays the trust one person has with another.

The second reason for breakups is because those who are close to you… your friends and family members… didn’t like the choice you made.

The 3rd reason for breakups is not being compatible sex partners. Everyone has different flavors. Relationship councelors cite that the expectation of sex as a primary reason for stress that leads to breakups.

The next top reason for breakups is bitterness, boredom and constant unhappiness with the relationship. All that complaining and nagging is happening for a reason. This is the time to talk about it instead of letting it escalate to the point of breaking up.

The 5th reason is the lack of quality time because it is true that life can get in the way of a great relationship. Job expectations… children… and so on.

The 6th reason is letting yourself go… not caring about how you look anymore…

The 7th reason for breakups is being extremely disrepectful to your partner. The 8th reason is abuse… physical and/or mental.

The last top reason for most breakups is the long distance. I remember one of the top dating gurus saying that you should never get into a long distance relationship… for this very reason. It is very hard to keep and maintain a relationship when you don’t see the other person much. The phone and computer isn’t a good substitute for a real relationship.

OK. I talked about the reasons why most breakups happen… was any of them familiar to you?

The good news however, is that for most breakups… there is a cure.

But for me… abuse is where I draw the line and so should you. Abuse is total disrespect and disregard for who you are… and it is never your fault when you are abused. So if this is what is happening to you… then I strongly suggest that you seek help in your area to start a new life elsewhere…

But back to the cure… you first need to figure out why your relationship ended… was your partner cheating? This issue is a toughie… sometimes you can forget and forgive. And sometimes your ex will never change so it may be better for you to continue on and find someone that will give you the respect and love that you deserve.

If the problem of the breakup was family members and close friends… you will have to tell them in a nice but firm way that it is your business and they need to butt out of your relationship decisions.

Unhappy within a relationship? You need to understand that it is never the responsible of your partner to make you happy… and you are NOT responsible for making your partner happy either! So who? YOU, my friend!! You need to find ways to make things interesting for yourself. Find new hobbies… get a new job… find new friends and social events. But the ultimate person that makes you happy is… yourself.

No if ands or buts. So if you expect someone else to take the responsibility to make you happy… I can guarantee at some point… it will cause your relationship to break up. Because it is hard enough just making you happy… and now your partner expect you to make them happy too?

Not happening…

One of the biggest things that couples need to do is find the time for quality time together. And sure, it can be very hard in a hectic and stressful world… but it is a must for strong and healthy relationships.

Are you letting yourself go? That is probably one of the easiest things to fix. It can be improving your hairstyle to getting a better wardrobe. If you have gained weight… now is the time to use that motivation to lose the weight and keep it off.

But don’t do it for your ex… do it for yourself. It is great for self respect… it means that you are more comfortable with yourself and you can rely on yourself…

If the breakup happened because of lousy attitude… then dude… you need to stop being disrespectful… because nobody likes being with a person that is ugly inside.

Change the ‘tude. Become a happier and giving person.

And like I said above… if you are in a long distance relationship… the odds are against you. Either move closer to each other or find someone else.

So here it is… I gave you the Plan to Get Ex Back. I told you the top reason for most breakups and the cures to fix them.

However, this is just a blog post… if you find that you really need to get REAL information and REAL world solutions that WORK… I totally suggest that you check out The Magic of Making Up… it is by far the BEST book I’ve read that gives you the plan to get ex back.

Good luck and I’m rooting for you,

John