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Should He Get Ex Back or Find a High Quality Woman?
One of my readers sent email to me recently… I thought I would share it with you to see what you think…
hello
my ex broke up with me over a month ago. She immeadiately started seeing a new guy. At first she would bring him aronud to my local hangout to rub it in, it worked. i talked to her, broke down and told her i was sorry for not spending enough time with her, told her i missed her and she just got angry, but it gave her satisfaction. The reason i did not spend time with her is because i heard that she slept around on me. It just confirmed with the guy who had enough guts to tell me it was true the other day. (i respect hin for that, I neede to know) he did not know her and i were together when it happened i think. I met him after the fact.
Anyway last time i saw her i said nothing. it was at the store, i just stared at her to se if she could maintain eye contact with me. When she first looked my way she lit up, big smile then immediately looked down in shame, so it seemed. Hw er new guy was ther but made a quit exit, not even walking next to her or helping with the goroceries. This incident took place in less than 10 secounds.
I made no other contact with her except for loke the book said i wrote a short note saying i agree that breaking up was vbest for both of us. I feel it truly is right now. The space is good. I saw them leaving the same store this morning, we live very close together. they were in her car and i have no idea if she saw me or not.
I do miss her but at the same time I am ready to start dating again. I feel that it is unfinished business between us. I have heard nothing from her at all. Which may be a good thing. I do not know. My instincts tell me she will contact me again, but i think it may be a while. I am taking all the right steps but still miss her.
I kind of know the guy she is with now. He is oppisite from me totally. He has three kids and going through a devorce ( i met him before she did) before he started seeing her he would hit on any girl at the bar. Even her friends, The guy is compltely desperate it seems. She took the bait.
Am i imaging all this or not, I truly think she is in a rebound. But do not think she is over me.
I am wondering why it has been so long since she has contacted me. Seems like she is often with him. Like i said the last few times I saw her he was with her.
I will not contact her, at times i wanted to but have not. will not. I know despite all my ex and I could have a good thing. I have let her go to figure things out, and if she is in a better place then so be it. But like i say i do not think I have heard the last from her yet.
please share your thoughts with me on this.
Thank you
John (last name held out for privacy)
Here is my reply:
Hi John (nice name by the way),
First of all, thank you for taking the time to write to me… I appreciate it.
But I cannot make the tough decision for you… however, based on what you told me… and I’m sure your close friends and family have said the same thing… you need to start finding the right woman for you.
I think you are a good guy and I bet there are fantastic women who would love to meet a guy like you… and I really think the best program for you is The Master Plan… which I recommend for every guy who is looking for a high quality woman for a long term relationship.
I reviewed The Master Plan on my other website… and you can read it at the link below… however I have to warn you, this program is a little pricey for some guys… but let me tell you this… I have read lots of dating books and this one by far is the BEST at explaining how to become the best version of yourself which is very attractive to high quality women…
You can find my review here… The Master Plan
Whatever you decide to do is OK with me… good luck man.
warmly,
John
Topics: Book Review | Tags: scot mckay, the master plan | 2 Comments »
September 24th, 2009 at 7:32 pm
I also think he is a good guy and he can find a good women to fell in love with. He just needs to get out of his comfort zone and find his type of quality women…
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John Garret Reply:
October 29th, 2009 at 10:05 am
I agree with you on that… many guys and gals get so wound up with their ex…
And fail to see that maybe… just maybe this person isn’t the right one for me…
But sure, it is very scary going out to the real world and putting yourself on the line to find someone new…
That’s why you are an adult… you have to do this for yourself… after all… finding the RIGHT person for you is the best medicine of all.
God bless,
John
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